Ooops. I didn't realized I let this go so long without an update. Nothing personal, just lost track of time.
We went on a cruise right before Ramadan to MX (7 nights to Cabo, Mazatlan, and PV) with Emmy. Everything would have been better if we didn't get a drink package for our room. Maybe then she might not have gotten drunk and curse at Ro twice and criticized our parenting. We let the first curse go, but then she did the rest during dinner on the 6th night and B got mad at her. She ended up with food poisoning on the 6th day/7th night and stayed in the room all day so we weren't bothered and had an awkward drive back to Fresno from LA.
She owed me $1300 once we got back, which made everything more awkward. B and I think she didn't think I was bothered by the whole thing and that only B owed her an apology. Especially since she doubled down about cursing at Ro and never apologized for the way she acted. She kept hinting in later conversations that we might need to discuss things further, but I had already decided I was done being friends the morning before disembarkation. So, I just ignored her text messages about it and aimed to be civil until she paid me off.
Then, I was working on my taxes with Beth and my computer (10yo Surface 3 stopped working). So, I asked Emmy if she could pay me back sooner so I could buy a new computer. I didn't really need the money, but I wanted an excuse to stop needing to talk to her. She got all flustered suggesting that I shouldn't be asking her for that because our finances were better than hers. I didn't realize she was doing so badly paying paycheck to paycheck. I smoothed it by saying fine. I'll anticipate getting it a couple months after I sent the spreadsheet (would have been Apr 27), and then started getting together screenshots thinking I'd have to file for small claims. Luckily, she got her head out of her ass, and came up with a plan to pay me before Apr 1. She sent me a message after her last payment formally asking to talk about what happened. I changed the locks at our house and told her I had nothing left to say to her. She said she was disappointed, she felt our friendship was in jeopardy, and that I should reach out to her if I felt differently. I had the ability to preview the message, so I deleted it without responding. And that's where I'm at. I'm sad to lose a 30-year friendship, but everything that happened was stupid.
After we got back, we had a petanque tournament where I played on a Womens' Doubles team and we got second, and then a Mixed Doubles team and we got 3rd ($165 total). B played on a Mens' Doubles team and didn't place, so luckily my winnings bought our registration fees back and dinner. It was a little tough to do during Ramadan, but maybe I was blessed and that was why I placed pretty well. At least it was before it started to get really hot. Ro was bored for a bit, but Cary Park was pretty busy and he managed to find random families to play football and soccer with so he actually ended making some new friends.
Ro joined a Scouts troup (Den 199) and B talked a school friend into having her kid join. The other kid isn't really that interested, but he goes along with stuff. Ro's ended up winning the pinewood derby. I think the den leader is trying to get someone else to run the show since his kid is graduating high school. He had been asking us for years to join - he's a Reedley farmer whose wife and kid had been going to church with us for years and he gives me pretty good bulk deals on persimmons. Luckily, there's another family more excited about the whole thing. Ro's at an age where he can do the projects to get badges on his own. They mainly just need people to run the stuff like meetings and the pinewood derby.
Other thing going on is that I'm trying to get a PTA started at Ro's school. They don't have any money in their budget for big fieldtrips. It also doesn't make sense for the administration and teachers to do all the planning for it either. So, a small group started after a School Site Council meeting and one of our comadres (same one who made her kid join Scouts) made sure I was included. But then nothing happened. So I pushed and sort of took over the planning. Then the school librarian started a Parent Club for school carnival planning. So, PTA planning ended up transitioning to carnival planning, but hopefully we'll be able to get something in place for next year.
So, that's mostly it! Today, B went to Sacramento to play in a petanque tournament with a Hmong uncle. I took Ro to play flag football with a FPD PAL program and then I had a chance to type this up while he's at DnD. Not sure what we'll be up to this evening until B comes back. I hope you guys are doing ok, too.
I love you and miss you.
The car radio has been working fine. But then B accidentally knocked my mounted microphone behind the dashboard with the sun shade. The Jeep was due for an oil change so I took time yesterday morning to do the oil change, and then take apart the center panel to fish everything back where it needs to be. I remounted the microphone in a new spot where it may be less affected, but maybe I'll try to get better mounting tape to keep it in place. Anna said the sound wasn't affected by it being in the dash, but I feel like it works better when it's out. B and I made it out for a trip at the end of June to see Shakira in San Francisco. She played a really good show. There were four little girls that were sitting behind us who knew the words to many of her Spanish songs and it was adorable to have that chorus behind us. She had quite a few props like a giant inflatable wolf for her encore. I realized that I know more of her music in Spanish than English, but of course she sang anyt...
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